Little Girls Tea Party Etiquette

Little girls tea-dressed up in East Angel Harbor Hats!

Tea party etiquette is frequently taught to children, especially young girls, to instill social skills, manners, and cultural traditions. While tea party customs may only be prevalent or as formal in some cultures, they offer valuable lessons and benefits. Here are a few reasons why some individuals might advocate for teaching tea party etiquette to young girls:

Social skills: Tea parties allow children to learn and practice basic social skills such as greeting guests, engaging in polite conversation, taking turns, and showing respect and consideration for others. These skills can be valuable in various social settings throughout their lives.

Manners and etiquette: Learning tea party etiquette helps children understand and follow basic etiquette rules, such as using proper table manners, holding a teacup correctly, using utensils appropriately, and sitting and behaving politely. These skills can be helpful in formal dining situations and contribute to a child's overall understanding of good manners and proper behavior.

Cultural appreciation: Tea parties often have a historical and cultural significance in certain societies. By learning about tea party traditions, little girls can develop an appreciation for different cultures, their customs, and their unique ways of socializing. This exposure can foster cultural sensitivity and broaden their understanding of the world.

Creativity and imagination: Tea parties can be a creative and imaginative playtime activity for children. By setting up a pretend tea party, little girls can engage in role-playing, practice hosting and serving others, and explore their creativity through decorating the table, arranging flowers, or planning the menu. This type of imaginative play can enhance their cognitive and social development.

Bonding and relationships: Tea parties can be a delightful way for children to bond with family members, friends, or peers. By hosting or attending tea parties, little girls can strengthen their relationships, learn to be gracious hosts or guests, and create lasting memories with loved ones.

While tea party etiquette can offer a fun and educational experience, it's crucial to emphasize that it should not rigidly or exclusively target girls. Boys can also benefit from learning manners, social skills, and cultural appreciation through tea parties or similar activities. Ultimately, the goal should be to create an inclusive and enjoyable environment where all children can learn and grow.

Tea party etiquette manners that young ladies can learn:

Dress appropriately: Dress in neat and presentable attire for the tea party. Dresses, skirts, or bright casual outfits are typically suitable.

Greeting guests: When guests arrive, greet them with a warm smile, make eye contact, and offer a polite greeting, such as "Hello" or "Welcome."

 Wait to sit down until the hostess is seated, and then sit down in your chair from the left (this is for older girls 12 and up).  

Table manners:

1. Sit straight with feet on the floor, keeping elbows off the table.

2. Use utensils appropriately, starting from the outside and working inwards for each course.

3. Chew food with your mouth closed, and refrain from talking while eating.

Hands remain placed in the lap when not using them. "NO!" Elbows on the table. 

Handling teacups: Hold the teacup with one hand by its handle, raising it gently when drinking. "NO" pinkies in the air! (This is an ancient custom that the ladies used to signal to one another their importance in society). It's considered rude.

Stirring tea: Use a teaspoon to stir tea gently, without clinking against the sides of the cup. Place the teaspoon on the saucer between sips. "NO!" Slurping, just quietly sipping and paying attention to your tea until you set the cup back onto the saucer. 

Serving others: Adults or older children pour the tea. Offer to pour tea for others before serving yourself. Hold the teapot handle with one hand while supporting the bottom with the other. Pour slowly and accurately, avoiding spills. Most children's tea party treats are finger food, so there is no need for utensil etiquette. 

Taking turns:

1. Engage in polite conversation, allowing each person to speak and share their thoughts.

2. Practice active listening and avoid interrupting others.

3. Keep the topics of conversation on weather, school, or exciting things that they've done recently.

Polite Language: No use of words such as "Gross and Yuk".  

Thanking the host: Express gratitude to the host or hostess for inviting you to the tea party, and thank them for their hospitality and delicious treats.

Usage of Napkin: Place the napkin on your lap and use it to blot your mouth when needed gently. Remember to use it discreetly and refrain from wiping your face.

Respect personal space:

1. Be mindful of personal space and avoid leaning or reaching across the table.

2. Ask those at the table politely if you need something out of reach.

3. Always use "Please - Thank You - and Excuse me." 

Graciousness and compliments: Show appreciation for the host's food, tea, and efforts. Offer genuine compliments about the delicious treats or the table decorations.

Patience and manners: Ask to pass the cookie plate; do not reach across the table. Pass from right to left. Wait your turn to be served tea and food. Be patient and avoid rushing or grabbing for items. Never take more than you can eat. It's always best to ask for seconds.

Respect for others: Be polite and considerate towards fellow guests. Avoid negative or rude comments and practice kindness and inclusivity. 

Saying goodbye: When leaving the tea party, thank the host again for the lovely time and bid farewell to the other guests with a friendly goodbye.

Remember, the emphasis should be on creating a pleasant atmosphere where everyone feels comfortable. When teaching tea party etiquette manners, educators should prioritize flexibility and consideration of the children's age, understanding that the primary goal is to have fun, build relationships, and practice good manners.